Best Man

近期追睇BBC的Sherlock Holmes，其中一集男神Benedict Cumberbatch受邀做Martin Freeman的伴郎。Sherlock作為伴郎要發表演說，特喜歡這集遂看著看著拿筆節錄下來他這番感人的講詞：

"...The point that I try to make is that I am the most unpleasant, rude, ignorant and all-round obnoxious arseholes that anyone could possibly have the misfortune to meet.

I am dismissive of the virtuous, unaware of the beautiful and uncomprehending in the face of the happy. 

So if I didn't understand I was being asked to be best man it is because I never expected to be anybody's best friend and certainly not the best friend of the bravest and kindest and wisest human being I have ever had the good fortune of knowing. 

John, I am the ridiculous man. 

Redeemed only by the warmth and constancy of your friendship. 

But, as I am apparently your best friends. I cannot congratulate you on your choice of companion. Actually, now I can.

Mary, when I say you deserve this man, it is the highest compliment of which I am capable. John, you have endured war and injury and tragic loss, so sorry again about that last one 

so know this, today you sit between the woman you made as your wife and the man you have saved. 

In short, the two people who love you most in all this world and I know I speak for Mary as well when I say we will never let you down and we have a lifetime ahead to prove that..."

網上找到這段片，可以重聽，其實再聽仍是覺得感動。

今年有部電影Mr. Holmes講晚年的Sherlock如何面對年老和死亡，聰明一世的Sherlock Holmes審視自己一生明白了人生在世任憑再聰明絕頂、財富萬貫，仍沒有人能夠抵擋得到年老色衰、步向死亡這條路。

但願曾享有的一份真摯友情能讓這位天才不至於太孤獨。

愛你

B,
Oliver Jeffers 是你最喜歡的插畫家，你送過他的書給我，分享過無數個他畫的動畫。你說，他有一顆柔軟的心，所以可以用小男孩的眼睛看這個世界。純真，原是最珍貴無比而又易碎的一份禮物。

你從京都回來給我帶了一個姻緣符（笑），希望我早日覓得對的那個人。那一晚，我們Breadfruit吃了美好的晚餐，你說了你的旅程，我說了我的生活。那一晚，留宿你家，我們徹夜深談至我昏昏入睡。黑暗中，你看見我睡著了，才也蓋上被子入睡。

你總是溫柔聆聽和陪伴。讓我感動，一輩子都不想忘記你給我的溫暖和溫柔。

兩個多月因為學業和工作兩頭忙，好似一下子就過去；卻也仿佛過得緩慢，因為日子過得單調、重複、壓力和不斷在追趕進度，然後又在夢裡不斷被追趕，在空屋子、在森林在無數個空曠的空間，赤腳奔跑。

我想我有些焦慮。

你近年來投入插畫的世界，看了很多插畫，看世界的眼光總是選擇簡單些；每次去你家，你的書櫃像個寶藏。那一晚，我們談論書（對不起，我很久沒有讀書，只能聽你說書）、談論觀點、談論人生。

我說了自己的領悟，關於做女人的種種為難，關於自己的不知所措以及忐忑。

然後，你說：這個社會嘲笑那些事業成功但單身的女人，仿佛單身是一項罪惡，沒多少人會尊重女人的選擇，極力工作或許是現代女人想要重新界定自己價值和位置的一個選擇。 

B，你總是能夠一言道破所有我未言明的想法；在你面前我不必偽裝，我是那個集合脆弱、堅強、溫柔又大刺刺的我。你曾經說過，如果我是男人，你一定會愛上我，你該知道的，其實我也有同感。像企鵝總是會陪著小男孩去尋找他想要的那本書。

我們在這人生Lost and found的不僅是愛人，也是知己好友。

李叔叔

屈指一算Uncle 離開馬來西亞也有一年半余，總是持續發來一些生活的照片，算是用心在聯繫。偶爾談下工作，記得問候我讀書如何，適時給些意見，總是很相信我可以迎戰任何問題。

從小到大，我跟叔叔級人士都比較容易一拍即合。家人常笑我是Uncle Killer。

Uncle發來的照片都是漂亮的藍天白雲，成群的野生動物，我喜歡的長頸鹿還有臀部漂亮的斑馬，還有美得讓人屏息的花和樹，如圖的非洲菊。

我笑說，成天看著一望無際的大地，仿佛沒有盡頭的天際線，應該能練成寬闊的心胸。

他哈哈大笑，發來無數個大笑的emoji。

叔叔，謝謝你。那些漂亮的相片是你的心意，想分享的心意。一直有意無意地撫慰了我，天地之大，最自由的地方是內心的一片淨土。看著花草和天地，還有什麼鬱悶過不去呢。

眼淚

昨日眼睛不適，夜晚腫了起來，冰敷后入睡；
今早起來，腫得更厲害。
不知道是什麼因素導致，
無法上班，
一堆考試資料要啃，
來臨的週五要考試，
心裡一陣驚慌。
想著想著，眼淚就流了出來。
發訊息告訴B，我很難過，
她回說：咬牙撐過去就是了。

自己在床上默默地流淚，
覺得世界只剩下自己一個人。

吉光片羽

週五臨下班的前夕忙了一整天的N晃到我的座位，笑問：Hey, how was your exam?
他知道我週四請了假去考試，還記得過來問候。

我笑了笑：guess, should be okay.

我們閒聊著最近兩周我忙考試，他忙著培訓的一些事。

下週我還有另一科考試，而他即將飛德國去廠商哪裡做個Inspection，之後會到意大利玩幾日。我笑他要小心被誤認為是IS，因為同行還有一位馬來裔朋友。
他哈哈哈大笑。

T 經過自然而然地加入聊天的我們，

週五臨下班前夕的雨，沒人想急著離開加入外面堵得厲害的車龍。

知道我在考試，T分享他當年在英國讀Master的小故事，

大家聊了彼此在self-improvement 上所做一些功課，上課、考試、參加workshop等等。

我說起最近有個跟目前工作有關聯的workshop，很有興趣去上但看見費用和時間，
出於對上司的了解，自覺他會同意讓我去的機會不大。

T聽完后說: For me, there is one thing simple. You never ask you will never get.
又一次，這些男人點醒了我的盲點和那種“凡事自動設想又自動過濾”的習性。

我隔日把workshop的資料轉發給上司，表達自己想參加這個workshop的意願，希望增建知識和對工作有更多的contribute。我不知道最後我會不會得到機會去上個這個workshop，但是我的同事又實實在在地教會了我什麼是主動爭取。

他們都是樂意分享的人，很多時候教會我的不僅僅是工作上專業的知識，還有更多看待事情的觀點。並且一次又一次點醒我，事情本來很簡單儘管去做就是了。

我們之間還會分享那些小小的冷門知識，譬如班蘭葉煮水喝能降低膽固醇、石峰糖加熱水和酸梅就是很好的潤喉降火飲料，還有把小苦瓜（涼瓜）加西芹和青蘋果打成的果汁對減低體內燥熱有明顯效用。

這種慢慢培養起來的默契，每週總有一兩天這樣的下班前輕鬆閒聊是工作上的吉光片羽。

轉載

First let me state categorically that neither I, nor my wife Kiran, have any intention of leaving the country. We never did, and nor would we like to in the future. Anyone implying the opposite has either not seen my interview or is deliberately trying to distort what I have said. India is my country, I love it, I feel fortunate for being born here, and this is where I am staying.

Secondly, I stand by everything that I have said in my interview.

To all those people who are calling me anti-national, I would like to say that I am proud to be Indian, and I do not need anyone's permission nor endorsement for that.

To all the people shouting obscenities at me for speaking my heart out, it saddens me to say you are only proving my point.

To all the people who have stood by me, thank you. We have to protect what this beautiful and unique country of ours really stands for. We have to protect its integrity, diversity, inclusiveness, its many languages, its culture, its history, its tolerance, it's concept of anekantavada, it's love, sensitivity and its emotional strength.

I would like to end my statement with a poem by Rabindranath Tagore, it's a prayer really :

Where the mind is without fear and the head is held high,
Where knowledge is free,
Where the world has not been broken up into fragments,
by narrow domestic walls,
Where words come out from the depth of truth,
Where tireless striving stretches its arms towards perfection,
Where the clear stream of reason has not lost its way,
Into the dreary desert sand of dead habit,
Where the mind is led forward by thee,
Into ever-widening thought and action,
Into that heaven of freedom, my father, let my country awake.
Jai Hind.

Aamir Khan.Posted by Aamir Khan on Wednesday, November 25, 2015